Passive vs. Active Dating
There are two types of people who search for love, lust, and friendship on the internet, passive daters and active daters. Unfortunately for you, around 90% of the people using the major dating sites like Match.com and Date.com are passive daters, only sites like eHarmony.com really force the user to become active participants.
Who is the passive dater?
A passive dater is generally a person who is not fully committed to the idea of meeting someone online and is probably not a paying member of a dating site. They have the concept that there is someone out there that is perfect for them and by setting up an ad on a website than that person will find them. They rarely search for people they are interested in and when they do find someone who piques their interest they generally just save them to their favorites or possibly send them a wink or what ever other free contact method is offered. This is what the majority of the people who try online dating are like. They sit online waiting to be found but are not willing to make the effort to contact someone out of laziness, indecisiveness, or fear of rejection. This is the person who is almost guaranteed to fail at online dating and in the process taking a hit to their self esteem because by the time they give up they feel like everyone can find someone online except for them.
Who is the Active dater?
Well there is a good chance that if you care enough about succeeding at online dating that you have purchased, borrowed, or even stolen this book than you are an active dater. Active daters are the ones who have the best chance of finding love on the internet because they are the most willing to put the effort into it. They research the sites to find which one is the best for them, they carefully craft their profile so that it really shows off who they are, and when they look for people they like they send emails to those who catch their eye. While 9 out of ten people on the internet are waiting to be found, it is the active dater who is willing to go hunting for treasure instead of just waiting to hear about how their friend just got engaged to someone they met online
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